Let’s Keep Holding On

6 Dec

It’s been one of those days where I just feel like I am living out some personal version of hell. Mom was up when I got back from working out (always a sign that things are going to be a little bumpy). She was dressed and ready for me to take her home. Due to not having time to get my filters together before engaging with my mother for the day, I challenged her reality. That interaction has set the tone for the rest of the day. She is clear that she needs to get out of here and go “home” to where her things are and where people understand her. This has gone on non-stop all day. At this point I am exhausted, in tears, and wanting several strong drinks.

So you may wonder why am I posting this blog. Well what I know is that often caregivers get isolated. We feel like no one else is hanging on by their fingernails. We feel guilt about being overwhelmed with caring for a loved one. We need to know that someone sees us, feels our pain, and simply knows we are alive. I post this blog to let some other caregiver know that I see you. I feel your pain. I know you’re out there and I am so glad that you are there doing what you do.

In the middle of being completely overwhelmed today, I received a text telling me that someone close to me had received a miracle. That message meant more to me that he will ever know. I needed to know that miracles were still happening. I needed to know that God was making things happen. I needed that desperately today. I needed it and I got what I needed. I can keep going. I can keep holding on.


Below is information from a post on the Alzhiemer’s Association website. For the full article, click on the link at the bottom of this excerpt.

How to respond

  • Don’t take offense.
    Listen to what is troubling the person, and try to understand that reality. Then be reassuring, and let the person know you care.
  • Don’t argue or try to convince.
    Allow the individual to express ideas. Acknowledge his or her opinions.
  • Offer a simple answer.
    Share your thoughts with the individual, but keep it simple. Don’t overwhelm the person with lengthy explanations or reasons.
  • Switch the focus to another activity.
    Engage the individual in an activity, or ask for help with a chore.
  • Duplicate any lost items.
    If the person is often searching for a specific item, have several available. For example, if the individual is always looking for his or her wallet, purchase two of the same kind.
  • Share your experience with others.
    Join ALZConnected, our online support community and message boards, and share what response strategies have worked for you and get more ideas from other caregivers.

Read more: http://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-dementia-suspicion-delusions.asp#ixzz2mjUTd3Bg

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